We know that there are so many details to plan for when it comes to your big day! But, you could say that the first dance is the last of the high impact formal events, before the party really gets started. But, if you happen to be someone who prefers to live life ‘out-of-the-spotlight’, the thought of getting up on the dance floor in front of all your friends and family can be a little anxiety inducing!

I mean…everyone’s eyes are already on you for the whole day! And, that’s especially true when you’re saying your vows, delivering speeches, then of course, for your first dance as a married couple! But, we’re here to tell you that doing your first dance doesn’t have to feel scary, even if you’re feeling a bit nervous about it at the moment!

With these few short tips, we think you’ll be able to relax and be present for the big moment, and maybe even enjoy it! So, that you can grace the dance floor (and all your guests) with a moment to cherish forever.

Pick a Personally Meaningful Song

Picking a song that has emotional significance to you as a couple can help calm those ‘all-eyes-on-you’ nerves. When you hear the first refrain, it can help take you to a place that blocks out all the external noise, and makes you focus only on your new spouse! Kind of like a scene in a romantic movie, when the couple is suddenly caught up in a moment and everything else around them seems to fade away. So, we advise you to pick a first dance song that makes you and your partner swoon a little. 

Make Sure it’s Not Too Long!

As much as you may love certain songs, length is a very important consideration when picking a first dance song, especially if you are feeling nervous! Meaning, a 3 minute song is much less intimidating than a 6 minute song! To gauge your comfort level with song length, we encourage you and your partner to dance to the songs that you are considering and see how you feel dancing together through them. 

A Little Practice Makes Perfect

If you and your sweetheart opt to go for a choreographed dance, you’ll certainly want to practice, but not too much! Overdoing the practice sessions might backfire and actually make you feel more nervous because you’re focused on perfection. Of course, you want your first dance to be great, but perfect isn’t necessary. No one is expecting a “Dancing With The Stars” level performance! We guarantee that you’ll have more fun if you don’t stress too much about the outcome! Everyone at your wedding is there to support you, and is going to think your dance was perfect anyway!

Be Present

After all, what really matters most about this day is the amazing person standing in front of you. So, do your best to focus on your new spouse and let the rest of the world fall away, and the dance will take care of itself! Remember, your nearest and dearest, didn’t really come to see your dance skills, they’re here to witness and celebrate the love between you and your new spouse!